This is a subject that many of us don't like to discuss, but we always think of it when we lose a friend or a loved one, when someone comes up to the mic on the day of your "Wake" or the day of "Your Home-Going Funeral" to speak good words or good deeds you did. But tell your OWN story...here online... so that when that day comes, it can be repeated verbatim...because YOU told your story and what you felt that made YOU who YOU are. Just how do you feel about yourself, or what is it that makes you 'TICK?'
This is me! I believe in the old saying: First impressions always last. I love giving and being a supporter to someone in need. I am an encourager, because everybody needs some encouragement in their live. I love to speak from my heart, because the heart tells the truth of just who you are and what you are about...there is no "hidden" motive in my actions.
Remember me: as a person who is a team/group player and a background player...I love "holding" up the rear, because that is really where all of the "action" takes place...lol. I believe in leading by example...[another old rule of thumb]...and I am always aware of "who's" watching me...remember...I believe in leading by example...[oops...correction]...I mean "good example"...lol. I love a great/good discussion, I love a great movement or a forum for a "cause," and I love a "bunch" of camaraderie...lol
Remember me: as a Smiler. I love to smile because I love the response that I get back when I "flick" a smile on my face to someone. You never know who needs a smile to lighten/lift up their face(s) and to soothe their hearts. That's my spiritual reward and my "comfort" when I give away a smile. Now don't get me to singing...lol...I love you all!
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This is June 2, 2017 and I want to be remembered as a caring and good friend to all whom I meet. I want to be remembered as that girl with a big welcoming smile whenever you meet me.
I'd like to be remember as a go getter, a determined and challenging lady. I love life and I love listening to music from the 60's...that easy music that is romantic for lovers. Oooops----I'm a lover too of the man that I married over 46 yrs. ago..Dwight Love...my one and only soul-mate and friend.
Buddy, Buddy....tell it like it is. I heard you and I felt that deep in my heart. It really hit home for me too. "From whence cometh..." North Dallas Projects" to purchasing me a home in the Oak Cliff area. From whence cometh...cleaning tables at Wyatt's Cafeteria as a summer job, to have a professional career at Blue Cross and Blue Shield. From whencth cometh...the baby girl out of 6 girls to a mother and grand mother of beautiful well educated kids and grand children. Do you follow me???? From whence cometh...nobody to somebody who is happy with thy self and my life. But knowing that every day gives me another chance to be even better for me and human society and my country. From a quite little girl to a strong black woman who can stand her grounds on any issue that she is familiar with. What a conversation...what a conversation. Talk back...talk back.
Are you shame faced ,or just a private type person,it doesn't matter,you will still be remember. Remembering is only how someone see you . The question is how do you want to be remember. My answer to that is , live that life. If you want to be remember as a great bank robbery ,There a Chase and Bank America on Lancaster road go for it. At one point in my life ,I wanted to known as a good ball player,so I laid it on the line.When I was a dish washer , I wanted to be the best dishwasher and pot washer around. Now I want to be remember as a good human ,not perfect ,just striving to be better every day. As we are taught at FMBC, by my friend,classmate,and now my pastor Mack Flemmings ,God blesses,all of us,he bless us not just for ourselves ,but to be a BLESSING to others. I would like to be remember for sharing ,it might be a ride in Big Red , a loan, a word of comfort,even something funny that will put a smile on a face. I will like to be remember from whence I comet .I came from the North Dallas Project, I want to be remember as a true Bulldog. A Bulldog to the bones, I love me some Booker T. I would like to be remember as being a part of the last Bulldog Basketball Team to reach the State. I would like to be remember for the changes I was able to make in my life.From the clubs to the Church,from the cooler full of brew to a ice chest full of bottle water . Let me talk over your head now ,from a do be to a don't do ,how was that for leaving all squares wondering what is he talking about. Long story short I'm no different from most of you ,I would like to be remember as a good and decent human being.
To my little brother, Charles Richard Wilson, one of the finest examples of a friend I have ever met. You are the kindest, most loving man around. I could go on and on with my descriptive words, but I don't want to make the other fellows mad at me.....lol. I am so glad the Lord placed in your heart a special love for your friends and family and I feel so blessed to be a part of your life, I could never forget what a wonderful friend you've been to me and others... I love you like you are my brother by birth, and could never forget you.. You will always remain in my heart, and prayers!!
Fred Walker, you are an amazing, funny goofy, God fearing wonderful friend..... you have placed in my mind some wonderful and pleasant memories, your love for the Lord is very very evident, and for your fellowman is revealed everyday. I will remember you always as a dear fun loving friend.
Glo, I was very touched by your message. This is just the reason I wanted to have this conversation with the campus family because of all of the many friends, and family members we have lost this year and years ago. It is good therapy to talk things out and to think before you write because when we get those inner feelings that we have been feeling is revealed then we can deal with the matter. Glo, yes this is a meaty subject....and....that is a good thang. That was my goal. It makes you reach deep down and really bring out those things that you "think" you cannot put into words....or say with words...of your inner spirit and inner feelings. I hope others jump in and tell us what they are thinking and just how they feel about being remembered, because everybody wants to be remembered in some form, fashion or shape. We all have had an impact on this earth, and others need to know. Nobody can tell your story like you can...and your story really revealed to me your inner self. That's what I'm talking about! Now don't you feel better? Your words made me feel better and makes me wants to be the best that I can be today and for the days to come so that somebody...just somebody can step up to the mic on my home-going day and say: Deb was a joy. Deb always had a smile on her face. Deb always had a positive words to pass on. Deb always had a sweet spirit about herself and she didn't mind showing it. Deb always told you just like it was...her written words was like a real live conversation going on. Deb always gave people the benefit of the doubt. Deb always gave you three strikes before she would draw the line and end the stupidity. Deb always encouraged others when they themselves didn't think that encouragement could help them to want to do better and to be a better person. Deb was a Christian lady who knew the Lord and was a crusader to get those unbelievers to come over to Christ. Deb was always Deb whenever you saw or met her. These things and others things that I could expound on will be revealed/covered later. I must leave room for my campus family to reveal themselves. Or are you afraid to reveal your inner feelings? I encourage you to read Gloria's message.
Deb, there only a few people in my life that when I think of them, I laugh out loud, and you and Wink are two of them... I will always remember you for your kindness, thoughtfulness. Whenever I'm feeling down, all I need to do is read some of the conversations you and Buddy have and I feel like a new creature.. I learned a while ago the laughter is good for the soul, and the two of you make me laugh so hard I cry real tears of Joy.. You don't have to tell me that you love the Lord because it shows in your everyday walk, that's what make good memories. You don't need to do anything different just stay as you are and we'll all have lot's to say in remembering you!!
Every second that you live you are never going to get back. You are never going to get to change what you said, didn’t say, did, or didn’t do. Live how you want to live. Act how you want to be remembered, because you never know how long or short you are going to be here.
How would I Like To Be Remembered
Well, if I’m being honest, it was a lot more difficult to put this into words than I thought it would be because (dang) this is a pretty meaty question. The kind of question that left me in deep thought for hours before writing this post. But after dealing with the passing of so many of my friends within weeks of each other, it is actually something that has strangely been on my mind a lot lately.
So what do I want to be remembered for? Well, a lot of things came to mind – some superficial, some pretty deep. But as I thought and thought and thought some more, there were really only two things that kept popping up. Two things that really mattered. At least for me…
I am a firm believer that kindness conquers most.
I believe that kindness can change lives, heal wounds, and most certainly help others.
But I want to be remembered not just as someone who is kind, compassionate, and helps others; I want to actually BE someone who is kind, compassionate, and helps others, whether I am remembered for it or not. Helping my family overcome challenges and obstacles, helping strangers (that become friends) pursue their passions, and everything in between.
So that’s my list.
It’s a little scary and nerve wracking to say those things out loud, but now that I have, I’m glad I did. I hope you’ll hold me to it, if you ever see me getting out of whack.
People will remember more about what they saw in me than in what I said or did. Our lives make such a difference on so many. As you go about your day, ask yourself “How do I want to be remembered?” Considering that makes today so much more important. Make it the best day ever. Live. Love. Serve.
And, by the way, to all those who I’ve met and come to love through this virtual campus “I’ll remember you.”
I wrote this message back in Oct, 2011 and I thought that it would be so appropriate for someone who maybe going through some grief to read and know that all if well with their loved one. The ending was changed to fit the message I'm sending to my two sisters.
I had the best dream last night. I dreamed that I was floating on a raft...all alone...just me and the stars above. As I floated along this calming sea of water...I notice a dead branch sticking out of the water. As I approached...or should I say..as I drifted up to this "dead branch" that was protruding out of and above the sea of water...I noticed that there was a small green leaf beginning to grow out of part of the dead branch. Then my raft slowed up as I approached the green leaf that had began to grow out of this 'dead branch.' I touched the green leaf and it fell in hand. As I held and rubbed on this soft and vibrant green leaf in my hands, I prayed. Lord, this leaf that I have in my hands, please allow it to flourish and not wither until I can get back to shore, so that I can place it in some water so that it might grow and live. And as I gracefully held this soft green vibrant leaf...I could feel it pulsing in my hand. What was this thing...that I had in my hand that was pulsing and moving and blossoming. I came to find out as I reached the shore line, that it was a message from the Lord, telling me that if I "held" on to something of his of nature...or of his "creation" that help cometh soon, but for me to just "keep my eyes" on the shore line to guide me through. I did this...I kept my eyes on that "thin" shore line that I could "barely' see from a distance...but I got there...I got to the shore line. And when I did...all was well...the leaf, the leaf...as I opened my hand...the leaf had "grown" a root at the base of the leaf, so I planted it right there on that shore line for all to see and know that: All things that "look" dead...aren't always dead. Try planting a plant in remembrance of someone you love. I planted two plants for my two sisters Mary and Winnie, because I know now that they really live. In my heart and in Heaven where I will meet them one day with Madear and Daddy. They live because they left me many wonderful and funny memories that I can pull up at anytime and laugh. Still today I want to call Mary and Winnie on the phone because I feel they still live...I just cannot see them...but they are still here with me. That is how I have dealt with their living me because I know that all of our days are numbered and when my day comes...I will be ready. Will you be ready?
{Thank You Lord Jesus for what you will do and what you have 'ALREADY DONE.' You are an AWESOME GOD...and I give you all of the PRAISE and the GLORY! Do you PRAISE him campus family...do you PRAISE "HIM" today?
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